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Is your work manipulating you?

By Amira Alvarez “Shouldn’t I be satisfied?”… you tell yourself.  And yet you’re not. There’s something gnawing at you, deep underneath the surface of all the tasks. There’s clearly more that you desire.  You know that what you want is bigger than simply picking your next revenue goal.  Maybe it’s more spaciousness that…
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“Shouldn’t I be satisfied?”… you tell yourself. 

And yet you’re not.

There’s something gnawing at you, deep underneath the surface of all the tasks.

There’s clearly more that you desire. 

You know that what you want is bigger than simply picking your next revenue goal. 

Maybe it’s more spaciousness that you want…? 

Maybe it’s a deeper love…? 

Maybe it’s a more meaningful life…?

Whatever it is that you truly want, the truth is… you’ll never find it if you keep distracting yourself with work… no matter how important that work is.

Work, for the Achiever, is the master manipulator. 

It seduces you into avoidance by giving you the gifts of success. 

When we accomplish something, we get that “hit” that says “woohoo, success!”

We get the appreciation, accolades, status, and financial remuneration.

All gifts. All great things.

But what if, while in pursuit of your next hit of success, work is keeping you from manifesting your deepest yearnings?

Work is the best form of distraction. The. Very. Best.

It’s required and therefore justifiable.
It proves that you’re needed.
It shows that you excel.
It demonstrates your brilliance.
And you’re really good at it.

Plus you get lots of kudos for it and the success that it often creates. What’s not to love about that status and those accolades?

Those were hard won, so we’re definitely not going to diminish them.

And yet… 

There’s got to be a different way to live life… one that allows you to create an exquisite life of beauty, truth, love, meaning, and success… without having to prove yourself all the time.

It’s time to stop running and start receiving so much more from life. 

Stay tuned for more on The Exquisite Life Plan.

Resentment: Is it you or them?

By Amira Alvarez “Resentment is always a lack of personal responsibility.” This is one of the reminder hacks I created for myself a long, long time ago. And I still use it.  Whenever I feel resentment, I now know it always indicates a lack of personal responsibility. There is something that I did…
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“Resentment is always a lack of personal responsibility.”

This is one of the reminder hacks I created for myself a long, long time ago.

And I still use it. 

Whenever I feel resentment, I now know it always indicates a lack of personal responsibility. There is something that I did or didn’t do that I’m blaming someone else for. 

A request I didn’t make.
A desire that I held back.
A communication that wasn’t clear.
A piece of information that I failed to share.
A doubt I had in another person.
A conditioned response I haven’t upleveled.
And the list goes on…

I am 100% ‘at cause’.

I never want it to be me but it is ALWAYS me. Without exception.

Once I get over myself and my need to be right and perfect, I’m so grateful for this recognition because it always leads me to FREEDOM.

When I put this together, it was like the sky opened up to me and one of the keys to the Universe dropped into my life.

I’ve been grateful ever since.

See…

When you are no longer willing to blame anyone else for your mood, your well-being, your experience, or your results…

When you choose to be personally responsible for ALL your outcomes (not just the good ones that you’re proud of, but ALL of them)… 

Then you are back in the driver’s seat as the brilliant creator that you are. 

You take back your creative agency and the control, if you will, over your life.

So if you’re blaming anyone for letting you down, if you’re resenting someone or something, ask yourself a better question…

What do I need to take responsibility for?

Goals vs Desires: A key difference when it comes to manifestation

By Amira Alvarez I was talking to a long-time private client this morning about what is next for her. It was a question I posed to her last week for her to contemplate.  Things are good, even great for her yet she’s ready for more. I can feel it. She can feel it.…
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I was talking to a long-time private client this morning about what is next for her.

It was a question I posed to her last week for her to contemplate. 

Things are good, even great for her yet she’s ready for more. I can feel it. She can feel it. But she doesn’t YET know what it is.

She came back to me today with an awareness that she hasn’t really “done goals” well in her life. She just focuses on doing good work and things unfold for her.

We unpacked this and I shared how this was both in alignment with how the Universe works to deliver the manifestations you desire and how it’s also incomplete.

Let me explain…

The Law of Compensation says that in order for you to receive greater compensation you must become bigger than your present place… bigger than who you’re being right now.

This requires growth. 

Growth requires that you become more.

When you have a standard of excellence for yourself in your work and you keep taking on more and doing it with excellence, you will naturally become more. 

You will grow yourself to be a bigger container for the good that you desire.

(This is true whether we’re talking about income, ease, love, spaciousness, exuberant joy, sexual energy, or whatever you desire.)

This is how you become open to receiving more.

And yet there’s often an unconscious missing piece…

DESIRE.

True desire, not lack disguised as desire, is a cause set in motion.

When you claim a true desire it calls you forward into the growth that the Law of Compensation asks of you.

It’s connected to YOUR truth – not a should.

It’s connected to YOUR abundance – not scarcity.

It’s connected to YOUR purpose – not an obligation.

Now let’s compare this to goals. 

I’m a big fan of them but only when you can hold them with an open heart and only when they start from a place of desire… not should, not scarcity, not obligation. 

Most people when they set a goal that doesn’t meet the “desire criteria” immediately feel a certain amount of constriction. 

This is actually a GOOD thing. It’s telling you that you’re off course, either slightly or to a large extent.

This is a forced goal, rather than a true desire.

In order to shift, it just takes tapping back into what you truly, really want.

What is that for you?

This is what we’ll be discussing in our Spirit of Wealth Retreat – what is rising up in you ready for a rebirth. #PhoenixRising

If you have interest in joining us for this in early October, please send me an email.

What Are Your Visibility Goals For 2019?

By Amira Alvarez What are your visibility goals? How will you be putting yourself and your work out into the world? Do you want to speak on stages or be featured on podcasts? Do you want to start making videos… have that photoshoot… go to more events? I want you to take a…
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What are your visibility goals?

  • How will you be putting yourself and your work out into the world?
  • Do you want to speak on stages or be featured on podcasts?
  • Do you want to start making videos… have that photoshoot… go to more events?

I want you to take a moment to figure out what exactly you desire to create next year… in reach, revenue, and impact… and how important visibility is a part of calling all of that in.

Go ahead… I’ll wait. ;-)

Great!

Now that you know what you want to create… how confident are you feeling in your own skin? How comfortable do you feel getting dressed up and going out into the world? How are your energy levels? Will you feel like a sexy badass getting in front of the camera?

If you answered ‘no’ to any of the above… we need to talk.

Not feeling comfortable, confident, and energized in our skin is one of the TOP WAYS women hold themselves back in business. It has a DIRECT link to whether or not you hit your income goals and call in everything you desire.

Not feeling good in your body leads to playing small and hiding out… it keeps you from actualizing your fullest potential, because you’re constantly putting it off for “when I lose those extra pounds…” or because you’re “just too tired right now.”

Are you ready to move past that?

(Hint: the answer is ‘yes’ if you want to make the kind of money you desire.)

There is a DIRECT CONNECTION between how you feel about your body and the money you’re able to make in your business. Don’t let this hold you back a moment longer.

Amira

HOW To Call In Exactly What You Desire

By Amira Alvarez When we’re leveling up in our lives and businesses… truly going for MORE in all the ways that both excite and terrify us… one of the things that stops us is the how. *How will I move to the next level in my work? *How will I actually make six…
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When we’re leveling up in our lives and businesses… truly going for MORE in all the ways that both excite and terrify us… one of the things that stops us is the how.

*How will I move to the next level in my work?
*How will I actually make six or seven figures in my business?
*How will I finally lose the weight if I haven’t been able to for years?
*How will I sell this new product or package I’m excited about?
*How will I find the time to take that trip I’ve always dreamed of?
*How will I find the money to buy the clothes, the new house, the car I want?

Seems practical to consider these things…

Yet, that’s exactly where we get hung up, stuck, stalled… and we never move forward.

You see, sometimes we claim what we want (the first step in The Unstoppable Woman Methodology), and how we start calling that in is crystal clear… so we just need to take the actions.

Often times, however, jumping from claiming what we want to trying to find the how is missing a step… the second, incredibly important step of The Unstoppable Woman Methodology… which is to DECIDE. Decide that you’re going to do/be/have whatever you desire.

It’s not just… “that would be nice.”
It’s definitely not… “maybe someday soon.”
And it’s certainly not… “but that’s not practical now.”

You DECIDE that this is what you are going to do, be, have… FULL STOP.

Deciding means eliminating other options… it means you’re no longer spinning on the what ifs and maybes… you are DOING THIS. Even if you don’t know how.

Because DECIDING is required for the HOW to be revealed to us. Deciding is what prompts us to step into a new way of BEING, which opens us up to new possibilities, opportunities, and actions.

It declares to Spirit, “okay, we’re doing this now, what’s next,” and Spirit gives you guidance… but not before you decide.

But DECIDING hits up against our deepest fears… blocks… beliefs… stories… and our subconscious mind is an absolutely pro at giving us seemingly great reasons to not move forward. So we never truly, deeply, fully decide.

Whether you’re ready to double or triple your income, or create some other amazing outcome in your life, this is the process you need to know!

I’ll show you how to move from claiming your desire… to DECIDING that it’s happening… and into the aligned actions that help you become TRULY unstoppable and turn your life into a work of art… quickly, and with far more ease.

Can’t wait to go deeper into this with you…

Amira