Would you love to feel amazing at the end of each day? Full of satisfaction, knowing that you knocked it out of the park?
Can you imagine what this would do for your momentum and your ability to show up and SLAY every day in your life and your business?
You would be ON FIRE!!
But that’s not the case for most people. Most people sabotage their momentum by not keeping their word to themselves.
Here’s how the momentum-killing, downward spiral actually works (see if it’s familiar)…
First, we set conscious or vaguely conscious commitments to ourselves and others. All good, except we’re generally not clear about when or what or how it’s going to happen.
Because we haven’t gotten clear about it, we get distracted, tired, or pulled in a different direction by someone else’s needs or some kind of fire drill that appears more important.
When we realize we haven’t kept our commitment to ourselves, there arises a slight feeling (sometimes more) of disappointment… then guilt… then wrongness… then failure… even when we’ve done a trillion other things in our day.
Your downward spiral might have a slightly different nuance to it, but it probably looks pretty similar. Recognize what happens for you when you say you'll do something… or you have a strong desire to do something… but you don't actually do it.
- What happens to your mood, energy, and self-esteem?
- What happens to your ability to feel good at the end of the day?
- What happens to your relationships (personally or professionally)?
- What happens to your sense of Self, who you believe yourself to be?
- What happens to your self-talk, the stories you tell about yourself?
Do this over and over again AND THIS KILLS YOUR MOMENTUM.
Now take this deeper and ask yourself…
What are the unconscious or vaguely conscious commitments you're actually making?
What are the first ones that come to mind? It could be a desire to work out every day, to do your morning routine, to make sales calls, to start that project, to get your marketing off the ground, etc. It could be any number of things in your day-to-day life and business.
Continue to note them throughout the day.
You'll be surprised how many shapes and sizes they come in. You'll also be surprised if you track this, how often you set yourself up for failure!
If you say you want to do something, be clear with yourself.
The only way to do that is to take your calendar out and schedule it. Decide specifically what you’re doing and when it's getting done.
If you work your calendar in a PROACTIVE way, you’ll see exactly what choices you need to make to stay in integrity with yourself.
Make these choices.
Live in integrity.
Feel the flow. :-)