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Fear Of Letting Our Partners Down

By Amira Alvarez One of the things I often share with my private clients when they're having a hard time choosing between what they want (their BIG dreams and desires) and what their wives/husbands/partners feel comfortable with is... My own story of extraordinary shame. Of when I broke the trust with my husband…
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One of the things I often share with my private clients when they're having a hard time choosing between what they want (their BIG dreams and desires) and what their wives/husbands/partners feel comfortable with is…

My own story of extraordinary shame.

Of when I broke the trust with my husband and almost got divorced.

And I'd like to share it with you too… because there are big lessons in it.

I recently told this story as part of an audio I recorded to introduce to The Spirit of Wealth Mastermind and Masterclass… so this is a twofer audio. :)

You can download this special audio and listen to it right now. No opt-in required.

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In addition to the story I share, there is a lot of teaching in the call, plus a description of The 2018 Spirit of Wealth Mastermind and Masterclass. If you're the right woman for this program that I describe, come back to this post and click on the button below to apply.

Click here to apply.

When you do, you'll be invited into a conversation with my team where you'll get CLARITY on…

  1. What your big desires and dreams TRULY are,
  2. What the blind spots are that are getting in your way (and what to do about it), and of course…
  3. If we think The Spirit of Wealth program is a good fit for you, we'll invite you into that and answer any questions you have.

This is an intimate program designed for the woman who already has a track recorded of making over 6-figures and is looking to uplevel her wealth consciousness, Quantum Leap her bottom line, and join a sisterhood of soulful, powerhouse women going for more. If that's you, it's time! :)

Amira

PS: For some of you, you love the sound of this program but don't YET fit the income requirement to participate. No problem! Let's get you to that level! Your first step is to click the apply button–my team will recommend the perfect access point for this teaching for YOU. If these concepts resonate with you, you will love how I teach, mentor, and coach in all my programs.

PPS: Want to listen to the audio later but get the details about The Spirit of Wealth Mastermind and Masterclass now? Click here for a summary of the program.

It’s Called The Master Key To The Universe

By Amira Alvarez Over the years I bet you've heard a lot about creating a gratitude practice for yourself. It's pretty much a standard tool now in the personal development world. There's good reason... It's called the master key to unlocking the power of Universe. I didn’t always understand this. If I’m honest,…
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Over the years I bet you've heard a lot about creating a gratitude practice for yourself. It's pretty much a standard tool now in the personal development world.

There's good reason…

It's called the master key to unlocking the power of Universe.

I didn’t always understand this.

If I’m honest, I used to do my gratitude practice as a bit of an obligation… “Okay, I’ll do it… ‘cause you told me it was important.”

I was clearly missing the point and I’m not too big to admit this.

I really didn’t get it and therefore it really didn’t work for me.

But everything changed when I started to do two things…

The first was when I started to be grateful for things IN ADVANCE of them happening. This was HUGE.

I’m so grateful now that xyz has happened.

Using this phrasing would instantly put me into a state where I was visualizing and feeling the excitement of having received or achieved what I wanted. THIS I could get behind!

I could feel this gratitude and I could feel how it instantly raised my vibration. I felt better immediately and this lead to all sorts of momentum in my life and business.

The second big shift was when I taught myself to be grateful for ANY LESSON I needed to learn. This was a bit harder to grasp, but so worth it.

Once I understood that ANY situation in which I was feeling disappointment, frustration, blame, or anything negative was simply an indication that I was needing to go to the next level of awareness in my life… that I needed to learn a lesson and grow… THEN I could find gratitude.

I taught myself to be grateful for this awareness of what I needed to learn and how I needed to grow a-a-and… the very act of doing this allowed me to grow.

This is BIG one and will transform your life and your business if you apply it consistently.

So in honor of this Thanksgiving Holiday week… I encourage you to give thanks in advance and find gratitude in “the growth opportunities.”

This last one is particularly handy if you get triggered by your crazy Uncle Joe. ;-)

Thank you for being in my tribe.

Amira

 

PS: Come play with me on Facebook… You'll find that I post short and sweet, thought-provoking, business building questions, as well as more elaborate “essays” exploring ideas that are essential to building your business.

What do you need right now in your life?

By Amira Alvarez Growth can be exciting, but sometimes it's also really stressful. So how do you deal with the stress when it arises? That was a recent question in one of our Facebook groups: "I've been going through so much growth and upleveling that I'm even though I'm excited, I'm also stressed…
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Growth can be exciting, but sometimes it's also really stressful. So how do you deal with the stress when it arises? That was a recent question in one of our Facebook groups:

“I've been going through so much growth and upleveling that I'm even though I'm excited, I'm also stressed and exhausted. How do I deal with all of this?”

It's actually quite simple… LOVE WHO YOU ARE, as you are now. Warts and all.

First off, have zero judgment. Zero shame. You're just tired. You've pushed past your limits and you're tired. All is good. No shame in that. It happens to all of us.

Acceptance is key.

Accept yourself, just as you are.
Love yourself, just as you are.

And most importantly, recalibrate.

Get sleep. Get rest. We all need it, and it's non-negotiable. On an average, try to get 8 – 9 hours a night. If I slip below this one day, I'm good. But more than that and I start getting irritated, short, frayed, angry, etc.  

Which are all repelling states to growing our business. They make us hugely unproductive and drop our energy into states that aren't conducive to createing what we want.

Create space and time, and ask yourself: What is it that I need right now?  

A nap? A bath? A good movie? Yoga? Staring at the ceiling? Time alone?

You have to get in the habit and routine of giving yourself what you need, because each time you up level SIGNIFICANTLY you will need to recalibrate. Again and again. It's an essential and unavoidable part of growth and making your quantum leap.

The sooner you recognize this need and make space for it, the better.

Remember… nothing's broken. All is good. ;-)

Amira

How I Moved Passed the Big Boulder in My Path

By Amira Alvarez When you're running your own business, sometimes it can feel like there's a giant boulder standing in your way. It often happens when you've been moving forward, feeling awesome, getting a ton done, and then WHAMMO... GIANT BOULDER. (Where did that come from???) And this boulder (aka, block, obstacle, issue)…
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When you're running your own business, sometimes it can feel like there's a giant boulder standing in your way. It often happens when you've been moving forward, feeling awesome, getting a ton done, and then WHAMMO… GIANT BOULDER. (Where did that come from???)

And this boulder (aka, block, obstacle, issue) doesn't seem to want to budge.

You keep pushing and pushing but NOPE, that boulder isn't going anywhere.

You know you've hit a boulder when work feels like a grind, your body starts complaining loudly, and all inspiration has vanished completely.

This happened to me one recent afternoon when my boulder came in the form of a MIGRAINE. I don't get them often, usually once a month related to a change in my hormones. (In truth, even this is way too often, right?)

At some point in the afternoon, I realized that ALL MY FLOW had stopped. I wasn't getting anywhere and I was grinding it out (I HATE GRINDING IT OUT).

So what did I do?

I stopped, just like that. (You can do this too. ;-)

Because continuing to grind it out is NOT productive, NOT efficient, and NOT good for either me or my clients.

I wrapped the last thing up and took a nap. But when I woke up, my headache was still there. No miracle.

I could feel myself getting annoyed and going down the rabbit hole of…“Why is this happening? I have so much to do, I just want to GO…. this means everything is going to hell in a handbasket, all my projects are going to fail, I'm really screwed.”

Whoa nelly – THIS IS NOT GREAT LINE OF THOUGHT. And yet, that's where we tend to automatically go when things aren't going how we want them to.

I stopped that nonsense the second I noticed it. (If you don't have a copy of “Stop Your Spinout” my quickie guide to turning around this kind of thinking, grab it here. It's short, powerful, and really helps in these situations.)

I TLC'd myself for the rest of the evening and went to bed.

This is the Law of Non-Resistance at play. I didn't keep pushing against that boulder. I took the hint and I stopped resisting what was happening.

If you've got a boulder in front of you, whatever it looks like, know that…

1) Your inspiration will come back. It always does.

2) Your business won't collapse. Things really can wait.

3) Resting is not avoidance unless it is. I was back at it again the next day. You'll know the difference.

The Law of Non-Resistance is one of the most powerful laws.

The way to use it?

Ask yourself… what are you resisting?

Amira

“I’m getting inconsistent results. What do I do?”

By Amira Alvarez "I'm getting inconsistent results. What do I do?" You show up consistently. (That's the short answer.) Here's why... It's the Law of Cause and Effect. What's the Cause in this situation?  YOU. Your thoughts, your decisions, and your actions are how you show up and determine what shows up for…
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“I'm getting inconsistent results. What do I do?”

You show up consistently. (That's the short answer.)

Here's why…

It's the Law of Cause and Effect.

What's the Cause in this situation? 

YOU.

Your thoughts, your decisions, and your actions are how you show up and determine what shows up for you.

If you plant corn, hoping for wheat… you're still going to get corn. There's no getting around that. You can hope and dream as much as you want… but if you're planting corn, you'll get corn. This is the Law of Cause and Effect. The seed of corn will always grow into the plant of corn.

Same thing with your business…

If you're hiding out or not taking action and hoping for a thriving business, you're going to get the results of hiding out and not taking action… not what you're hoping for. There's no getting around this.

If you're getting inconsistent results, like sporadic clients, contracts, or sales… then we know what the cause is… inconsistent thinking, inconsistent decisions, inconsistent actions. You're not showing up consistently the right way in your business.

There's power in showing up consistently. It works. And it's an essential part of making a quantum leap in income as well as in ease. Let me be clear… it doesn't have to be the grind-it-out style of showing up, but you do have to show up.

Don't make an excuse (because this is where you'll want to).

Every business, at every stage and level, has the potential to grow even more… that is, if you get out of the way and allow for more.

Take an honest look at where you could show up more consistently in your business.

If you start coming up with a story, like… I can't handle any more business right now; I've grown enough for right now; My family will suffer if my business grows any faster; I'll be overwhelmed if I grow too quickly…” then those are the results you're going to continue creating. And I know that's not what you want.

Name it, but do something about it.

Don't stay stuck.

Staying stuck is a CHOICE. So choose something different and you'll begin to see different results in your business that match that choice.

 

Amira

What would you like people to know about…

By Amira Alvarez What would you like people to know about... A) You, because you are your brand. B) Your products or services. C) The benefits of your product and services. D) The intangibles – customer service, quality, reputation. I'm not looking for well-crafted messages. Don't get hung up on making it all…
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What would you like people to know about…

A) You, because you are your brand.

B) Your products or services.

C) The benefits of your product and services.

D) The intangibles – customer service, quality, reputation.

I'm not looking for well-crafted messages.

Don't get hung up on making it all fit into one freaking sentence with a bow on top.

The one sentence “or die” thing is one of my biggest bugaboos. It hangs people up for hours, even days… sometimes even keeps them from talking about their business at all.

Sure, the process provides clarity. It gets you thinking and really honing in on what you do and the benefits of it. That is good, I'll give you that.

But really? It's a rare, rare, rare case when you have to speak or even write like that.

In fact, when I'm at an event and someone parrots off their one line introduction, most of the time it feels so off. (Even if it's well crafted.)

Want to know why?
Because it's devoid of life.

It's not how people talk to each other. It's not real. There's no place to land. Even though that's exactly what the person is trying to do… give us a place to land, to connect to them and their business.

You have to have REAL conversations.
Talk like a person to another person.

Come up with your MESSAGE. (Yes! A thousand times yes!) Which you will say in lots of different ways. Which you will continually breathe life into each time you say it.

Don't make things hard on yourself. Just say what you really mean.

With that in mind, and without going through a huge polishing process, what do you really want people to know about one or all of the following… just let it rip!

A) You, because you are your brand.

B) Your products or services.

C) The benefits of your product and services.

D) The intangibles – customer service, quality, reputation.

Want some practice sharing what you really mean?
Head on over and join me at The Posse.

I cannot wait to hear what you say. 

Amira